Parenting is a most powerful and deciding factor of your child’s character, mentality, behavior and actions towards the life, people, universe and circumstances. It is taking care of a child from his birth to maturity. It is a truth that parents can’t write their children future but they can set its foundation. You can easily develop a child at the place of modifying an adult. A child learns lots of new things such as fashion, games, knowledge from his school, friends, society and books. But his characteristic features like how to deal, act , behave, think, his morals, manners etc. are based on his parents, family background, and upbringing. Most of the cases parents are the mother & father, but in some cases it can be an elder sibling, a caretaker, or relative.
In all cases, being a parent is a very tough job, full of responsibility, care, awareness and sacrifices. For every child his parents are his ideal and the best persons of the world as he closely observe them and they are always right for him. He always try to be like them. So its your duty to maintain the discipline in your activities in front of your child, which has a direct effect on upbringing of your child. Every parent has the same goal ,” the best for their children”, but the way of treatment are different. Sometimes parents teaches the right lesson to their child but they select the wrong examples or wording. Such as all-time proving self parents wrong in front of their grandchildren like we awakes whole night in your sickness, your grand father even didn’t allow us to take proper rest. Some insults their wife and others like, Your mother has no sense of dressing. Mayank’ s father is selfish, he dose not love him.
At the place of degrading someone always show them the positive side of each and everyone’s situation. Tell them every parent provide the best facilities to his children according to their conditions and abilities. Teach them the equal importance of each family member Whether he is earning father or housewife mother, or the old grandparents. Teach them the importance of being self dependent for their regular activities. Don’t show the different behavior for girl and boy child. Remember, this is the actual platform where your boy is learning the value of a girl and respecting her and your girl is learning how much she can expect from a boy. Difference starts from the home.
Teach your children the value of hard work and education. Educate them for making responsible citizen at the place of money making machine. At the place of promoting them with your power and approach teach them to pass the exams with their hard work and knowledge. Don’t forget that you have such position due to your hard work. So don’t parallelize your child’s mental strength under the influence of your approach and power. Make them creative and productive.
Corruption also starts from the home. People used to take work from their children by paying some sweets and toys to them in return. “Give me one glass of water, I will give you a chocolate”. Don’t tell it to your father, I ‘ll buy a toy for you”. Sometime blackmails them,” If you will do this, I’ll complain your class teacher”, sometimes threaten them,” next time you will touch my laptop, I’will break your hands down”. In response, your child is habitual of such kind give and take. Now its his time and he will say first give me a bike, then I’ll do that particular thing. Don’t make your child a greedy, selfish, corrupt person. Don’t teach him the way of blackmailing and threatening you for his advantages.
Trust your child. Teach him the value of money and its saving. Give him some responsibilities according to his rising age. Appreciate his good works. Don’t insult him in front of others. Give him a little care and time. Nourish your child with morals not with luxury. Don’t predict negative future about him.” As I can see you will not serve us in our old age.” “You will become the slave of your wife”. Such wordings does not make a good impact on other person. Don’t spoil the relations with your tongue.
Don’t Force your thoughts and dreams on your child. Give the wings to his dreams and strength them by motivating him for achieving the goals. It is good to teach him your learnings but allow him to create his learnings with his own experiences. Try to maintain a good communicational relationship. Listen to him. Value his opinion. Respect his personal space. Be a friend to him and he will never hide anything from you. Give him the conclusion of his all confusions.
Sacrifice the habits you don’t want your child to adopt. Leave the habit of chewing tobacco , drinking alcohol, smoking etc. You can not stop your child of doing so, if you use to do the same things. Don’t use mobile and watch the television if you are not in favor of your child to do so.
Adopt a little change to deal with the modern generation. What you will give them today will get back to you tomorrow. Nothing will go with us at the end of life but make sure to left a wise and self dependent generation behind us. And our morals will always be there in the form of that implementing brick.
Whispering Thoughts 