How to Get Fair Skin Naturally

Everyone dreams for looking his best every day. Skin is the only thing which is faced by the world at first sight. So taking proper care of your skin is a necessity. It is an ugly truth that people of fairer skin are more preferred than the darker skin. On the other hand, it is also a fact that neither we can completely alter our natural skin color nor we can change our original skin tone without going under any skin lightening and whitening therapy. But yes, we can maintain our original fairness and make our skin more glowing without using any harmful makeup, chemicals and artificial supplements. Use of such artificial things can result in life taking risks.

It is wrong to equate fairness with skin lightening. Fairness means the recovery of our original skin glow, which is faded by time. There are so many reasons, by which our skin goes dark and dusky. Most of them are our eating habits, Sun-burn, dehydration, acne spots, formation of dead skin cells, dark circles, use of chemicals, insomnia, hyper pigmentation and lack of vitamins and minerals in our body. These all problems can be overcome by a slight change in our daily routine and use of some easy and natural home remedies. We can select some ayurvedic products at the place of chemicalised products.

Our skin is a very soft and sensitive part of our body. So we will delicately treat it with lots of natural essentials. Following are some steps, which can cure and make fairer your skin in natural way:

Internal Care of Body: It is the first step. It has a big impact on our skin as it is the care of our skin by inside which has longer and excellent results. In this process we take nutrients in the form of liquids and solids which helps in formation of new and strong skin cells. Internal Care of Body includes:

  • Hydrate your body: Drink plenty of water. Use lime water to avoid the effect of sun. Drink coconut water as it is rich in minerals which are helpful in nourishing your skin and enriching its fairness.
  • Take healthy food: Your body gets most of the nutrients from your food. The quantity and quality of these nutrients depends on the type of food you are taking. What you eat can significantly affect the health and aging of your skin. There are some best foods for keeping your skin healthy and you must adopt them in your diet schedule.
  • Fatty fish, such as salmon, contains omega-3 fatty acids that reduces inflammation and keep your skin moisturized. It is also a good source of high-quality protein, vitamin E, and Zinc.
  • Avocados are high in beneficial fats and contain vitamins E & C, which are important for healthy skin. They also pack compounds that may protect your skin from sun damage.
  • Walnuts are good source of essential fats, zinc, vitamin E, vitamin C, selenium and protein-all of which are nutrients your skin needs to stay healthy.
  • Sunflower seeds are an excellent source of nutrients, including vitamin E, which is an important antioxidant for the skin.
  • Sweet potatoes are the excellent source of beta-carotene, which acts as a natural sun block and may protect your skin from sun damage.
  • Red –yellow Bell papers contain plenty beta carotene and vitamin C. which has antioxidants and vitamin C is also necessary to create collagen, the structural protein that keeps your skin strong.
  • Broccoli is a good source of vitamins, minerals and carotenoids. It also contains sulforaphane, which may help prevent skin cancer and protect your skin from sun burn.
  • Tomatoes are a good source of vitamin C and all of the major carotenoids especially lycopene protect your skin from sun damage and may help prevent wrinkling.
  • Soy contains isoflavones, which have been shown to improve wrinkles, collagen, skin elasticity and skin dryness, as well as protect your skin from UV damage.
  • Coco contains antioxidants that may improve wrinkles, skin thickness, hydration, blood flow and skin texture.
  • The catechins found in green tea are powerful antioxidants that can reduce redness as well as improve skin hydration, thickness and elasticity.
  • Resveratrol, the famous antioxidant found in the green tea, which is helpful to protect your skin from sun damage and regulate your metabolic rate.

Eat green veggies and avoid junk foods.

  • Detoxify Your Body: Take one glass lukewarm water with one table spoon lemon juice and one table spoon honey after waking up in the morning. It will help you in a clear motion and detoxifying your body. This is very important to flush out the waste and toxic substances through your body. It will make your skin refreshing and acne free.

External Care of Skin: This step makes you able to clear your skin by externally applying some natural home based ingredients on your skin. It is used to remove dead skin cells and open the pours of skin so it can breathe and contain enough moisture itself. Following are some home based products used in Cleansing, scrubbing, moistening and toning of your skin to make it fair and glowing.

  1. Lemon:  It has bleaching property. It is helpful in skin lightening. Apply fresh lemon juice to the affected area, leave it for 10-15 minutes and then wash with cool water. Don’t apply it on sensitive skin.
  2. Milk: The natural enzymes in milk lighten your skin complexion and even out the skin tone. It also nourishes your skin and keeps it healthy.
  3. Turmeric: It evens out the skin tone and makes it brighter. It also improves the elasticity of the skin and scavenges the free radicals that are damaging it.
  4. Egg: The contents of the egg white will make your skin glow and the yolk’s contents will make it smooth and soft.
  5. Tomato: It has lycopene which helps to reduce pigmentation instantly. Its face pack will lighten the skin tone, reduce tan and remove the dead cells.
  6. Hot oil Body Massage: It will not only relax you but also make your skin fair. This massage increases the blood circulation and improves your complexion.
  7. Yogurt Pack: It will lighten your skin and cleanse it by removing all accumulated dirt out from the pores.
  8. Fruit Pack: Prepare a fruit pack by combining the pulp of an avocado, papaya and cucumber and apply it on your face for 20 minutes. It will give you a soft and smooth texture, lighten the skin and soothing it.
  9. Rose Water: Apply it on your face and with a cotton ball or you can pour some drops in your bath water. It refreshes the skin and protect from irritation. It is also a good toner for your skin.
  10. Cumin Seeds: It has vitamin A, C and E that give you a clearer complexen.
  11. Papaya: It contains an enzyme called papain  and vitamin C . It helps to exfoliate the skin and makes a way to new skin cells to emerge.

Beside these you can use Aloe Vera gel which has a compound called anthraquinone that gently lightens up your skin by removing the top layer of dead skin. You can use gram flour, Coffee, Carrot, sugar etc for making the natural scrub and face packs.

Sun Protection of Skin: While going outside your home and before facing the sunlight, apply some herbal sunscreen on your face and hands. Herbal is suggested because it has no side effects on your skin. Use a cap, sunglasses, umbrella and cotton scarf to cover your face. Do not face the sun directly. Use to walk in the shadow or shaded area. The Ultra violet ray’s presents in the Sunlight are very harmful for your skin. By using these easy steps you can prevent your skin from sun burn, tanning, and hyper pigmentation and may bad effects of ultra violet rays.

Last but not the least; take a sound sleep of eight hours daily. Apply some bio oil on your face before going to your bed. Exercise at least one hour workout or exercise with meditation on daily basis. There are many exercises which are helpful in relaxing and activating your skin.

In this way, By providing your skin the required nutrients and supplements through a healthy diet, applying natural facials on it and protecting it from UV rays of Sun One can get a fair and glowing skin or the best complexion of his skin tone.

The Best Way of Drinking Water

Water is Life

Water  is essential for every living being to complete his body functions properly. 2 / 3 part of a human body is made of water. Generally it is said that eight glasses of water are sufficient for proper functioning of every human body. But this rule is not applicable for everybody as the water requirement of every person Depends upon the climate or weather conditions of his area, type of food he is consuming and Lifestyle he is living. For example in summer body  needs more water cause of high temperature and high sweating while in winter the water consumption by the body gets lower. If you eat spicy and oily food you need more water to digest it but, if you eat more salads and fruits with less spicy food you will need less amount of water. In the same way if your job profile is of sitting work then you need less water in comparison with those who have a hectic schedule.

Hence, the water needs of every human being can be different. It also depends on your weight. We can calculate the amount of water needed for a particular person by dividing his weight with 10 and subtracting 2 out from it and you will get the right quantity of water you must drink in a day. For example if a person has 60 kgs of weight, then he should take(60/10=6-2=4) ltrs. of water a day. Drink the essential amount of water to rehydrate your body. It will prevent your blood to be thicken and maintain your Blood Circulation process.

Drink Plenty of Water

Now what  is the correct way of drinking water, so it can help you to maintain your health and weight. If you drink right Quantity of water with proper rules of drinking it, then it becomes a very useful medicine to prevent you from many diseases, increases your beauty and reduces the aging effects. You just have to keep the following few things in your mind while drinking a glass of water.

  1. Never drink water in standing position. Always sit down properly and and then drink water. When you drink water in standing position it causes joint pains and many such diseases.
  2. Never chug too much water at once with making the sound “gatak gatak”. Always sip the small amount of water. Drink your whole glass by sipping it slowly. If you drink excess of water at once your body will not be able to absorb the required amount of water and most of the water will be thrown out from your body.
  3. Always drink the lukewarm water. Our organs perform their functions on body temperature which is about 37 degree Celsius. When you drink chilled water, then your stomach needs the blood of same temperature to maintain that body temperature. Then it demands blood from nearby organs such as heart , intestine etc. This process effects the functioning of other body organs and  causes many different diseases. So avoid cold and ice water for drinking.
  4. Take two glasses of water immediately after you wake up in the morning without brushing. Morning saliva has alkaline properties which reduces the gastric and and acidity problems. This is also helpful in activating your organs which were in rest while you were sleeping and it also helps in releasing the toxins out of your body. It is helpful in easy motion. When your motion is clear your mind gets refresh and works actively.
  5. Take one glass of warm water one hour before going to your bed. It will help you to digest your food, maintain the blood pressure and fulfill the fluid requirement in your body at the time of sleeping.
  6. Don’t drink excess amount of water with your meal. By doing so there remain no space for digestive juices in your stomach. These digestive juices gets diluted with excess amount of water and and your stomach is not able to digest the food properly. The food goes fermented and you have to suffer from gastric. So just sip small amount of water with your meal.
  7. Take one glass of water before half hour of your meal. It will help you from taking excess quantity of food. Take one glass of water after an hour of your meal. It provides your Digestion system a proper interval to absorb the nutrients from food.
  8. Drink water when you feel thirsty.  Thirst is the natural phenomena. When your body gets dehydrated and need some water, then you feel thirst. Always drink water when you feel thirsty.
  9. Drink one glass of warm water before taking a shower can lower the blood pressure.

Drink the plenty of water everyday but slowly, and in small sips. By sipping, the Saliva in your mouth properly mixes up with water, which is helpful in the proper digestion of your food.

Stay happy & healthy! Thank You!

Be Aware of Your Medical Prescriptions

Be aware about Medication

Doctors are the second form of God. Where the great God gives us this beautiful life, Doctors help us to maintain the fitness and Regulating the activities of our body for a healthy life. But these all things are true only when your doctor has certified qualifications(full time medical courses from a certified university), Full dedication to his job & the most important humanity. But now a days the main ingredient humanity is missing in some doctors. They are more greedy about money. They have no value of your life. But all doctors are not same. Some takes there patients as their responsibility. For them your life is precious.

So it depends on you to choose the right doctor for yourself. First you should give priority to your body then you can expect someone else to cure yourself. Follow some steps while you think you need a medical prescription.

  1. Understand your body: Each individual has different body requirements and responses. These all depends upon their birth time situations (such as, place of birth home or hospital, delivery style normal or cesarean, Birth Status healthy or with some complications etc.), the climate they live, the air they inhale, the water they drink and the food they eat. In this way anything which is best for someone can be worst for other one. So it becomes necessary to recognize your body and its responses about some climate changes, food allergies, some kind of fragrance allergies etc. Be aware about what your body can welcome and what doesn’t suits it.
  2. Understand the seriousness of your disease: Here I have two suggestions. First is – if you have some normal physical problems, like headache, loose motions, leg pain, seasonal cold, mensuration pain etc. Try to avoid taking medicine for these. Our immune system fights against such seasonal problems and forms antibodies against the bacteria. But when we take medicine for these small small things the immune system gets weaken and self resistance power against climatic changes reduces. You can take some exercise, good sleep, healthy food, plenty of water and some home remedies to overcome such problems. But if any cold, any pain or any other disability is going moreover than two days consult your doctor. If the pain intensity is too high and you feel any kind of discomfort in breathing or dehydration go to your doctor without loosing a second.
  3. Don’t be the doctor yourself: Never take any medicine without the concern of a doctor, or never advise someone to do so. Every drug mostly the painkillers have many side effects and some precautions regarding taking them with other drugs. Their salts can react and negatively affect your body. Some drugs are advised with milk, some with warm water and some with cold water, some after your meal and some before your meal. Each drug has a proper dose to treat your problem. But if you take it without concerning your doctor it can be harmful and life taking risk. Yes for emergency you can keep some common drugs by asking your physician or you can use some Ayurvedic medicines as they have natural ingredients causing negligible side effects.
  4. Go to the right category of doctor you need: Before going to a doctor do some homework. If you have some dental problem then a physician or surgeon can not help you anymore. You must go to the dentist. So this home work will save your time and also the risk of wrong treatment too.
  5. Ask everything about your medicine: It is your right to ask questions from your doctor regarding your health, and medication he prescribed. You must be aware of everything about your medication, its timing, doses, side effects, food supplements, precautions etc. A good doctor always listen his patient with patience and satisfied him first with his polite answering and showing no hurry.
  6. Always Check the expiry date printed on the pack: Before doing payments for your medicine always check the manufacturing date and date of expiry. It is very important. If you take a medicine after its expiry date , that can be dangerous for your body and cause some fatal reactions. So be careful about it. Also Throw out the expired medicine time to time by checking your first aid box.
  7. Keep an active Record of your all time medication : Write down your all medication processes on a note book with proper date and duration. Mention the name of doctor, medicine, clinic address, medicine manufacturer doses and their effects on you. It will help you in future medication and also in avoiding to use bad affecting medicine again.
  8. Always use a new or well sterilized needle for injection: It is very important to save yourself from some infectious diseases such as AIDS and other. Needle must be new or sterilized in boiling water.

Note that it is your body. Listen to it. If any medicine is making you uneasy in any way stop taking it and consult your doctor. He will change it with other substitutes or change the amount of doses. But if someone forces you to take that change the doctor. May be that was good for your relative but it is not necessary that the tolerance power of everybody is same. Never miss a dose and take all doses with suggested intervals by your doctor. Be active and cautious. It takes only one pill and two seconds to destroy the functions of your body but a long interval needs to overcome this disaster.

Take Care! Be safe! Be healthy!

Enjoy The Little Things Of Your Life

Everything is beautiful

Generally we get lots of excitement when some big events happen in our life, such as Weddings, New Baby Born, Job Promotions, Festivals etc. But what about small things which happens daily in our life. Each big thing is a result of the execution of a series of many small thaffectionedings. Anything big takes time and more effort. Yes! these big things are valuable and precious but if you have the ability to enjoy the little things of your life , you will be more excited, more creative and more confident not only on few selected days of years but 24*7 daily.

One more interesting thing about these little – little events is that they effortlessly happens in their selves and cause no inner or outer pressures on your mind. When you start appreciating small things, the journey for the biggest achievement becomes interesting, refreshing and full of positive energy. It releases the stress and reduces the bordam arises during the time intervals of the consisting big events.

“DON’T WAIT FOR A PERFECT MOMENT, TAKE A MOMENT AND MAKE IT PERFECT.”

Actually there is no such perfect moment which can delight your heart , it all depends on your desires and priorities. Sometimes anything bigger is also not enough to give you an inner peace and that pressure to make that moment more valuable is not at all avoidable. So don’t just waste your time in waiting but create a beautiful experience and a sweet memory with each passing interval and fully enjoy the all small – big events currently running in your life.

Big things has no need to seek your attention as you are automatically affectioned to them, so keep an active eye on the small things around you in present. Observe everything and consider the best positive outcomes from them. For Example play with children. Be a child for some intense and notice the level of excitement inside you. All memories of your Childhood will start dancing in front of you and that smiling curve on your face is the real happiness you were looking for. Be great full for everything you have by thanking God every time you realize their importance.

Appreciate yourself for doing some good, new, or helping others. Appreciate your self every time for little things. For example, I never have bad intentions, I always give my best etc. Complement yourself such as How tasty food I cook waoo! Pink Color Really suits on me!

Be thankful to others when they appreciate you and help you in common activities. Complement others for their attitude, looks, qualities, performance. Admire their specific internal talent. Always take a initiative for doing something new and good. Don’t wait for others to do so.

Enjoy each and every moment of your life before it is passed away. Enjoy at least three little things daily of your life and keep their record. Enjoy the first rain drop, dancing peacock, a peace of music, singing birds, hot coffee in winters and coconut water in summer, chatting with old friends, Shopping, and everything you can. And when you will look behind , you will realize how important and big things were those.

That Era Of Letter Communication

Letter Communication

There was a time when these mobiles were not in existence. Land lines were also not so popular among common people, for communicating . The cheap and affordable communication media was letter writing and Indian Post in India. People used to write letters to convey their status of health and wellness and to wish any festival, good news or celebration. For fastest delivery Telegram was preferred. It contains only a single lined message. Only the main idea of the matter.

My Father is a Govt Teacher in Tehri Garhwal, Uttrakhand . His hometown is in Bijnor Uttar Pradesh and My mother’s family lives in Kanpur Uttar Pradesh.These three destinations are at a huge distance from each other.So, In decade of 80-90 , My mother used to write letters to her family for stay in connect to them. As I got the skill of writing, my mother started giving me a corner to write in her letters . It was about first half of 90’s, I was in my early age about 5-6 years. Relationship among we siblings and my maternal relatives is more friendly and caring. My Uncles, my cousins and we all send letters to each other. My second number uncle(mama) used to send us post cards and always write the name of us,(three out of three siblings) in the top of address bar. It was Like,

Indian Post Card

To, Sweety, Minti & Rohan and in the end of the letter there was always a smoking cartoon face.

it was like, Your’s Uncle His Name and

Letters were delivered at my Father’s College, where he was posted that time. Letters from my uncle would come on a weekly basis, If there was any kind of delay, the companion teacher of my father started to ask him why the letters were not coming, was everything all right. Although none of my uncle smokes but they draw that cartoon for teasing us.

In reply We also draw some cartoons and tease them by saying those childish gossips and fights. Post Card is open communication on a card of prescribed size. It has 14 cm length and 9 cm breadth. My mother generally wrote Inland letters. They had a large area for writing the details. Inland Letter Card has flaps and folds and a maximum weight of 5 grams.

This kind of letter communication had a true love and care inside the each words written on it. Starting of letter is done with Wishing Respect to elders and love to youngers, assuring them with our wellness and hoping for their wellness. Everyone did a long wait to get answers of their letters from their beloveds. These letters had real emotions , a fragrance of affinity and a bond of unconditional love. Those moments of waiting for your letter were precious. There was an excitement and curiosity to read the letter and know about the wellness and prosperity and progress of our relatives, friends and closed ones.

I will discuss an other kind of letter here which we used to write our friends who used to sit next to us in our classroom. By sitting next to each other writing for them sounds stupid but we did this. Wordings of that letter were like, My Dearest friend ABC, Always Live happy! Keep shining Like the sun, Keep fragrance like the flowers, keep twinkling like the stars, keep moving like the earth, Keep singing like the birds…………………………………. When such letters had been caught by someone in family , that person got mad by laughing on such childish thoughts. But those keeps had lots of prayers for our best friends. Even when there was a fight between two friends, these letters were also used for blaming each other.

One more thing I miss is New Year Greeting Cards. Those lovely cards contained wonderful rhyming and lyrics to wish a brand new year to our loved ones. I remember we purchased lots of card of different sizes and prices for different category of our friends. The most costly and the biggest one was generally for the Bestie. Remaining were distributed in accordance with the affection towards them. We also draw some cards from our hand also. It was really exciting.

Now these all emotions, efforts and excitements are converted in to the SMS, Texts and Emoji’s. Those dedications become just formalities. Those friends who wrote letters by sitting next to you now feel panic fingers in typing a text for you. Mobile generation has shorten the distance of communication but it increases the distances between hearts. People just copy, paste and forwards. they have no original and real emotions. Everyone is just a copy cat.

Hostel Life, Polytechnic Diaries

Still I have remembered the day, I entered in my hostel in 2007 for first time. I was so excited and little worried to start a new phase of my life far apart from my parents and family. I was a latecomer , as I was selected in Govt. Girls Polytechnic Gorakhpur, But I preferred to transfer at Govt. Girls Polytechnic Lucknow. The whole process took about two months. It was a big challenge to complete the syllabus with self study to match the current chapters proceeding in the class and also to make some new friends. I was allotted room no 1 in C Block Of ABC Block. All three Blocks have a Common Mess And a Common Hall. I have three room mates with me in my room. Two of them were cousin( Ruchi & Pooja) and have same stream Electronics, I (Priya) Had IT(Information Technology) and Remaining (Preeti) had IDD (Interior Designing & Decoration).

They all welcomed me. Then I met with Other Girls of my stream. All were from different places. Then they started telling me about the stories of our seniors , how they behaved with First year in the name of Intro. Although Ragging was banned at that time but quite torture on first year was acceptable at the name of Intro. Torture does not mean beating or causing injury here. It only means to standing them out in the corridor with down heads seeing their knees. No movement was allowed till their next order and only They had the right to decide which activity will be performed by that particular first year student. We have to wish or talk in proper Hindi. We have to put lots of oil in our hairs and tie them up. We can only wear ethnic suit and that would be the combination of three different suits i.e. shirt from different set, trouser from different set and dupatta from different set. No westerns and tight clothing was allowed for first year.

Some of the activities we performed were :

1. Be the whistle of pressure cooker- In this you have to bent down on your knees and move round and round your body in upward direction with the sound like a whistle in pressure cooker.

2. Polytechnic thumka – It was like when they say aththanni, move your belly to the left, on Chavanni, move your belly to the right, on saying rupaiya move your belly a round. such as: aththanni-aththanni-chavanni-aththanni-rupaiya and your belly be like left-left-right-left-round.

3. Be a lizard: In this you would be stick like a lizard on the wall near you.

4. Give them a salute on 90 degree angle: In such activity bent your back down at 90 degree and salute them by moving your hand from backword to forward with saying aadab arj hai ABC didi ji.

5. 10 kinds of laughter: In this you have to laugh in 10 different styles.

6. Put your smile under the coffin: This was a punishment if you were caught laughing or talking with each other during intro section. In this you have to pretend like you are digging a hole on the earth and covering it after putting your smile inside this.

7. There was an other punishment if you are failed to recognize a senior, then you have to write her name and related information on a paper 100 (or as they demand) times.

Beside these dancing, singing, were the easiest demands. First year was not allowed to talk with mess vale bhaiya ji(workers). There was an announcement to collect the first semester on the corridor, before the intro session started. It was “pratham arddhvarshik satr ki sabhi chatrayen C block ke prangan me ekatrit hon” (All the girls of first semester are ordered to collect at the corridor of ground floor). The time limit of this session was not fixed. It was depended on the mood of seniors. Sometimes it is about 5 to 6 hours.

We must call the seniors by putting ‘Didi ji after their names. like ABC Didi ji. One most irritating thing was every single one from first year must be aware of the name , stream, and room no of every senior and supersenior. Now tell me , how it is possible to remember the information about them when there are hundreds of girls with different streams, different batch and different rooms. Any how if you got the information , how will you recognize that particular girl with face as we are not allowed to see their face anywhere including mess, attendance hall etc.. We would have always our neck down. Everyone did hide herself to prevent from the site of seniors.

It was too long. One semester was over exams of other semester were about to come and our introduction was continuing. Everyone was irritated now. Fear was over, concern for exams was seeing in every student. Then they put a condition to release us from this so called intro. They asked for a full torture a whole week and then a welcome party. Most of the first year refused it and finally they left us without fresher party.

It is good having some humer and fun but above a limit it is called the torture. It is only good when both parties are equally enjoying it. Forcefully and for a time of one year is not acceptable. Intro session should finished after a week and fresher party is the medium to make comfortable your juniors with you. That’s why I didn’t make too close connection with any senior. My favorite was my super senior Madhubala didi. My evertime favorite was Veena didi still we are connected. We both reached at Gorakhpur for same day in same train and applied for transfer to GGPL and luckily got admission in GGPL on same day. I never used to go for intro from my juniors.

But whatever it was actually fun. There was a new drama every day. I miss those days. I miss those festival collection, Diwali party, Holi party, Sunday special, common Hall gossiping, three bells for mess food, fairwell, NCC, D,E,F block gossips, day scholars, gate pass, my lovely peacock twinkle, grass cleaning, bathroom queues , notes preparations, back bitching of seniors, late night terrace visit, watching movies on laptop, putting food for roommates, reserving seats for friends, fight for paneer and all my lovely friends. I and Pooja we’re roommates for all three years of our course. In second year we were shifted on top floor of A block. There are lots of memories I can’t explain in single blog. I have done my three years diploma in june 2010 with honors there. While we were leaving the hostel, we all have tears in our eyes and a heavy heart. Now I have only my slam book written by my friends and those sweet lifetime memories.

It was government hostel, so conditions were not so good. Glasses of windows were broken. Each time we returned from the vacation, pegions made their nest on our cupboards and their poops we’re all around the room. Both of us used to clean it for hours. I learned a lot of things there. Live together, eat together, sharing, caring, respecting, cooperating etc. Before going to the hostel I wake up early morning at 5 AM and sleep on sharp 11 PM. I rarely eat any vegetable beside potato but after going to the hostel I started eating vegetables and learn late night sleeping and waking up late morning. The whole journey of three years was full of adventures, drama, emotions, competition and enjoyment. My all batchmates were hard working and fully concerned about their studies. All were supporting and caring. Far from our family, we were the family of each other.

Many of my friends are doing best in their carrier. Some have govt Job. We all roommates and many of my batchmates are still in touch. This is just a reminder to tell them I miss you all. Thanks for being the part of my life. Everyone must have an experience of living in hostel. It’s amazing.

Double Standards A Poisonous Mentality

“Nothing annoys me more than, when someone expects you to be okay with something that they wouldn’t be okay with if you did it.”

Its not always so easy to deal with those who have some double standards. They never have a single conclusion over the same condition. There statements and thoughts switches here and there as their mood swings or they can not bear their failure. They are more confused about their future and clueless. They are living a fake life in a virtual world of selfishness. They just want to satisfy their ego by fooling and false promising their subconscious brain to prove their acts correct over the others for doing the same. Double Standards means if someone has different opinions for same situation or activity regarding the persons involved in these may be he himself or anyone his known with some other.

Double Standards shows the partial and selfish nature of someone. It is like if you object someone for abusing or insulting you for a reason and justify it when you abuse or insult someone for the same reason. It is like someone have different rules and regulations for others but when it comes to him rules get changed. Anyone can carry these double standard thoughts. “see how much he drinks (alcohol)” but when it comes to their own son, statements would be like ” Its okay to have some occasionally or “he does not misbehave someone” or “taking as medicine is good for health” or ” he does not take it on daily bases”.

“One of the biggest flaws of people are pretending to be blind to their own mistakes, but do not pretend deaf towards the mistakes of others.”

Isn’t it strange when parents search for a high valued, well settled and well educated son- in- law for their daughter but in case of their son they want a daughter- in- law , who can adjust according to their son. Isn’t it the height of double standards when your daughter visits your home twice a week but when your daughter in law wish to visit her home once a half year, your mood goes upset. Why a woman to be so perfect for a man. Why we raise our girls to be like boys why not boys to be like them. How the sacrifices of a parent can be higher valued than the other parents? I don’t want to make this topic unidirectional towards women but it is misfortune of us that women are the born victim of double standard thoughts everywhere.

Is there any difference b/w the pain of a major’s wife and a solder’s wife, while both of their husbands had sacrificed their life for the country. Does any disease hurts the poor more than those who are rich or vice versa. Does the clouds rain for you more than your neighbors. No, pain is pain whether it is your or mine. So treatment should be same either it is you or me.

“A Double standard exists when an action, moral or standard is considered appropriate and praiseworthy for one group but considered wrong and deplorable for another.”

So from where this kind of double standards come? The virus of double standards attacks only those who have some insecurity and inferiority issues. Those who are not sure about there decisions and choices. Those who have no self realization and who are currupt. When they see anything goes against them or they would be apologized, they set a new standard for that to keep their self right. Before passing any judgment put yourself at the place of others and analyze your behavior. Think if someone would be like you then will your thoughts be same.

Double standards shows the poor stable conditions of mind. It is the lack of self confidence and the weak ability to accept the truth. It is the desire of domination. This kind of persons can never grow too high as they are limited within their self made boundaries. They have no connection with right-wrong, would be-would not be, do’s and don’ts. They are always right for them and forces their self on others.

Being a successful one stay away with such baseless people who can rotate in any direction with the changing direction wind, because they will never appreciate your jobs as they have double standards regarding your and their success. Just focus on your goal and make decisions of being single standard by keeping the facts in consideration. Then only you will get the real success and able to improve yourself.

Happy Holi 2019

Fill your life with different colours

Holi is the festival of Indian Hindus. It is celebrated in all parts of India. This is the festival of colors, peace and love. It is the triumph of good over bad. It is celebrated in early spring season. Acording to Hindi calender, Every year Holi festival comes on Poornima (Full moon) of Falgun month. The full moon day is known as Holika dahan Or choti Holi next day it is playing Holi with colors. People put colors on each other and hug each other. They forget all old fights and problems between them and starts a new beginning. The vibrant colors fill the positivity inside us. It gives the message of love and brotherhood.

The story behind this colorful festival is also very interesting. According to Hindu mythology once there was a king named Hiranyakashyap.  He was so cruel and bad. He wants the all mankind to worship him. But his biggest disappointment was his son Prahlad. Many times he tried to kill his son for refusing him to accept as god but not succeeded. Then his sister Holika suggested him that she will enter into a burning fire as she had a boon of being immune with fire from Lord Brahma. With the blessing of Lord Vishnu,  prahlad was safe and holika burned. It is the Triumph of killing internal evils.

Holika dahan

Every year my mumma prepares potato chips, Potato papad and also many other types of papads for holi. Also snacks and the lovely Gujhiyas. In my village the cakes and  Burkalas made of cow dunk are gathered at a place with some wood by each family of the village before some days of full moon. Rituals starts by lightening up that bone fire at the full moon day. Next day everyone plays holi with colors. This year Holika dahan was on 20th of March and Color Holi was on 21st of March.
When I was too young I didn’t like to play with colors.  I only love to eat sweets.  If someone put colors on my face, I used to start fighting with him. When I grown up a bit more than I started playing Holi with full excitement. My father used to bring so many colours, some dry and some water colors with water balloons and a pichkaari for us. Everyone would love to play in their groups. Sometimes people colors you after bathing also.
On the day of Holi,  we wake up early in the morning and after being fresh we take some snacks and sweets. I love Dahibada the most. Then we change our clothes.  Generally mummy gives the old and ugly clothes to put on for the holi play 😝. After changing we put oil in hairs and ties them up. Then we Put some moisturizer on face and now we are ready to play.
I miss my childhood Holi celebration. I  my family, our neighbours and friends,  we all used to prepare gujhiyas, play,  eat, dance and enjoy together. Throwing water balloons and colors was so exciting that time. We used to play in teams. Target someone and throw him in the water tub. Sometimes roll him over the muddy floor. We used to poke the elder’s group and challenges them for coloring us but when they come near us we locked ourselves inside bathroom. And finally when they found us they poured all our colors on us😂. One more thing we do was taking a potato and cut down that in two pieces, write or draw something on that and pull that shape out then fill some colors on blank area and throw it on others. We can say it potato stamping. Now it is only a formality as we neighbors are separated, friends and siblings are married. Everyone has different style of holi celebration in their in laws house.
Last time I played my style Holi in 2010 at my Nani( maternal Grandma)’ s house with my cousins and Mama,  Mami. After that I got busy in further studies and career.
Well, I want to play that kind of Holi like my childhood again. That was the real enjoyment and fun. Beside these rejoice and fun there is a negative side that some people get drunk and lost their senses and start abusing others.  Sometime the situation turns too ugly that all enjoyment turns into a disaster. Beside this some people throws colors on animals for their temporary fun. Any festival doesn’t allow To hurt a innocent and poor animal. Don’t destroy the beauty of this colorful festival by doing such mean activities. Never throw colors on someone who has different religion and who is not allowing you to do so. This is the festival of peace and brotherhood so don’t hurt someone’ s emotions. Don’t color someone forcefully.
Festival celebration is a way to give respect, love and care to others, so don’t disrespect someone especially in case of females,  don’t touch them badly while putting colors.  Never cross your limits. Don’t humiliate them on the name of holi. Respect your religious morals and culture. Be kind and Play safe. I wish you all a Very Happy Holi 😊! May this Holi Will fill your life with full of positivity and happiness.

Happy Holi

What Your Clothing Reveals About You

Choose the right clothing

Do you think your clothing can reveal your personality or it is worth to judge a person by his clothing? In my opinion clothing does not open up your whole inner personality but yes , it reflects a clear image of it. Your dressing sense is the first thing which is look upon by the people and they set an idea on its behalf about your personality even without interacting you. Your clothing sets a great impact on the individuals within your surroundings. So its very important to carefully dress-up yourself before going out. All this information given below is based on the research of some psychology specialists and fashion experts and collected from different sources and some of my own experiences.

It is the right of everyone to look attractive and stylish. Style has no proper definition and age limitation. Everyone can set his own style and can wear anything, he feels comfortable for his body. There are some tips which will be helpful in selecting a perfect out fit for you:-

  1. Don’t follow the trend blindly. It is not important of being trendy always but how this trend is going with your body matters. Accept that every trend is not suitable for your body just like each shining metal is not gold. Choose a clothing according to your Body type, body shape and body texture. Avoid loose clothing if you are skinny and choose vertical lining shirts if you are short in height. Make your own trend and follow your self style statement.
  2. Dress up your self according to your age. Don’t wear something which make you older and ugly than your actual age or make you the victim of insults and laughter in old age. Always carry an outfit which can maintain your dignity and respect at that particular age step.
  3. Select a clothing you can carry elegantly and comfortably without loosing its charm. Then only it will show your confidence and self esteem. It is not about how costly your dress is, if you have no ability to manage it perfectly it will completely destroy your look.
  4. Dress up yourself according to the theme or occasion of that place you are going. If you are going in some office environment than carry some formals or if you are going for outing wear some casuals. For any wedding ceremony you can choose some heavy and embroidered outfits. In case of women, don’t wear too short clothes in your workplace as they can impact your flirty and advantage taking nature upon someone’s mind.
  5. If your going in other region, country, state or different environment choose the clothing according to the tradition and culture of that particular area. In India there is a phrase “jaisa desh vaisha bhesh”. Whatever you are wearing must be acceptable there.
  6. Put the clothing according to the weather and season. In summer prefer light colors and in winters prefer dark colors.

Now what the psychology says about the people’s mood, mind and personality, who loves to wear some particular colors and styles of clothing. Many time we dressed up with our mood and mental state of mind. Some people planned their clothing, some just wear whatever they wish with no concern.

People who love to wear bright colors are childish, full of energy, optimistic and trend setter. Bright colors such as yellow clothing is preferred by the people who are active, creative, addicted, day dreamer,adventures, explorer and conquerer. Orange clothing is liked by optimistic, cheerful, eager to change and energetic people. they may be flaky but ambitious and prudent. People who love pink are kind, romantic and self righteous. people who like red are passionate, easily excitable, slightly self-centered and attention seeker. Purple lover people are royal, creative and art lover. White is the symbol of peace, freedom, purity and trust. these are reliable and flexible to the changes.

People who love to wear dark colors or dark shades are mature. disciplined, deep thinker and strong will powered. persons who love black clothing are purposeful, ambitious, sensitive and emotional. they hide their emotions and believe in the inner beauty of a person. Brown lovers are stable, reliable and concentrated. People who love blue are kind, calm, sympathetic, poise and shy in nature. Who loves green are active, soft heart, financially stable, social and cautious.

If someone love to wear some abstract printing clothes like some geometrical printing, maths formulas, that means you are sorted and have clear goals of your life. You are confident about you and love to express yourself. If you love to wear floral printing clothes, you are kind and natural. You can never hurt someone. Someone who loves slogan printed clothing are bold and expressive. They love to express their thoughts through these slogans.

Someone who choose loose clothings are open minded and can easily adopt the changes. They think beyond the limits. In reverse who love tight clothing are narrow minded and more conservative in nature. They are limited under the social boundaries. The one who is always in search of designer dresses has lake of self confidence. He has some issues regarding his image so he always want to show off his financial status and money power.

Your clothing is the way of giving respect to others and in same way getting respect from them too. Don’t make someone awkward with your dressing. It is not worth to judge a person’s character on the basis of his clothing because clothing is based on occasion, weather conditions, financial status and individual’s choice, and these all factors are changeable with time. But, yes choose a clothing which is easily adjustable, manageable, and comfortable for you. Which make you more confident and to groom up you not to destroy your look.